Oneness of spirit…!

Chukwuneta Oby

One thing I wish couples going through ‘trying times’ would understand is the importance of ‘oneness of their spirits’ …a very formidable ‘life force.’ Those who stick together (in such situations) always have happy stories. It is not a period for selfish and ‘backyard’ pursuits-that often leave your better half in the dark-such will dispense your energies in different (often opposite) directions and create a wedge between your spirits. Once your spirits are distant, the purpose of ‘the oneness of spirit’ (which is a prerequisite for any positive result at all) will be defeated. Almost every situation in life has a spiritual law governing it.

Has it not been said that energy goes where intention is? Why do you think that those who have been a part of each other’s life (in marriage) for a long time are most likely to die within a short period of each other’s demise? How about the explanation of a sick person (only) responding to treatment when his or her ‘better half’ is by their bedside? Why do you think some people will most likely have a strange sensation when their better half is in trouble? Or have you not heard that happily married persons have higher shots at longevity?

 The above scenarios can only perpetuate where the bond between the spirits of those in a union is strong. That is, the partners have become one-in spirit and it takes absolute openness with one another-to achieve that. That should give you an idea of ‘how far’ couples (whose spirits are together) can go- in any challenging situation. One big challenge that the marital institution is facing today is that most people are married to those their spirits are distant from. That is why a ‘lovey dovey’ couple would wake up one day and become strangers (often accompanied by so much bad blood) to each other. Otherwise, how does one explain some messy divorces? Where the spirits are one -most marriages will be ‘pure walk in the park’-quote me.

Some of us don’t understand what patience means again. A year into a marriage and no child is forthcoming, some men will start peeping out, to test their ‘manhood.’ That (to me) is most insensitive. What becomes of that woman who has to bear the tag of ‘barrenness’ from the society? I maintain that 45 per cent of the cases of childlessness in most marriages are caused by the penchant by the men to test their ‘manhood’ elsewhere. Such an act makes any woman an emotional wreck and we all know that issues like ‘trying for a baby’ requires some level of emotional stability and co-operation (on the part of those involved) for positive results.

Expectedly, some species of women out there seem to be cashing in on this ‘desperation’ on the part of some men. Once a man (whose wife is yet to have a baby) ‘meets’ them (even on ‘one night stand’ basis), they become pregnant-immediately. The ability to put two and two together (on the part of such men) usually flies out of the window because he is just too relieved to be a father-at all cost.

Be careful what advice you allow filter into your hearing. Your challenges do not worry your spouse any less than ‘it’ eats you up. Therefore, whatever option that is suggested to you and you have to explore it, ensure it involves ‘carrying your partner along’. Anything less is betrayal. Couples should learn to stand by each other, seek solutions together and carry each other along-every step of the way.